I want to share with you a very important and little thought about distinction when it comes to goals. Most people know or understand on some level that their goals are too small. We are told all the time to have "bigger" goals. "Go big or go home" as the saying goes. However, just as there are 3 dimensions in the physical realm, goals have another dimension as well.
Bigger is this sense is classified as width. "Go bigger" could also mean "Go wider." I submit to you there is a whole other aspect to goals; height. I implore you to go higher with your goals, not simply wider. Here is what I mean.
I recently had a conversation with a friend and I asked him about his vision for his life. His response blew me away. The impression that conversation made on me cannot be overstated. Whereas most people have "big" goals, he had high goals. Goals so high and personal that he isn't even sure he can achieve them in this lifetime. But that's when it hit me, those are the goals worth living for; the one's you aren't sure you can complete.
Of course, why you have the goals you have is of the utmost importance. For this conversation though, I will forgo the why and simply focus on the reality of his goals. They were higher than any of someone I have ever spoken with. Most people want to go from $50,000 to $100,00 or a small house to a big house. Notice that word again, big. Would it even make sense to say "I want a higher house."? Higher on the mountain? What would that mean?
I have come to understand that "bigger" goals usually deals with material things. More stuff. I want to go from 1 million to 10 million. From this side of the neighborhood to that side. Those are not the type of goals my friend elucidated to me. They were higher than that. They were spiritual, emotional and communal goals. They were of an expressly higher nature and it was inspiring. I looked at most of my feeble short-term goals and felt rather embarrassed and ashamed. He is daring to attempt a thing that is so high above him, he may never succeed. And that is precisely what motivates him.
Warriors, I submit to you that we should all have a goal or goals such as this. Something so high above us that the very thought of attaining it seems ludicrous. My friend has inspired me to rethink everything I thought I knew about goals. I have discovered another dimension. Height. How is height different than width? Height deals with your spirit, morality, emotion and intellect. It transcends simply the physical attainment of things and stuff. It is about the acquiring of things you cannot see, things you cannot put into a test tube. Things that are immeasurable. These are precisely the things we should strive for. These are the goals that fill our soul with fuel. Do you have soul fueling goals? Not just a goal about how large of a bank account you want to have or how many fancy cars you want to drive. Those goals don't fuel the soul. We don't want money or fancy cars for the money or cars themselves. We want them because in some misplaced way, we think they can bring us what we really want ... peace. Happiness. Contentment. They can't. I think a soul fueling goal might just do it. I don't believe true happiness can occur until we are standing in the presence of Almighty God, but until that point, I think having a soul fueling goal can be about as close as we can get on earth.
The next time you are setting your goals, don't just ask "Can I go bigger?" Ask yourself "Can I go higher?" Ask yourself "Am I setting any old goal, or is this a soul fueling goal?"
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