This 1 desire is the ultimate cause of all your pain and suffering and you don't even know what it is

What is that desire? I had a moment of clarity when I was reading about the myth of romantic "soul mates". What started out as only applicable to romantic relationships suddenly became relatable to all relationships. Then it became apparent to me that this desire not only affected all relationships but it affected your behavior. Yes, yours. The desire was staring me in the face for how many years and only tonight did I fully see it and unmask it. The desire that is the ultimate cause of your pain and suffering is this: The desire to be served.

Like all truth, it really is that simple. Your desire to be served is why you have all the problems you have in your marriage, in your business, in your personal life and in your academic life. It is this desire that fosters an attitude of entitlement and it transforms you into someone who is easily offended. How so? Because you filter all things through the lens of "ME". You are so preoccupied with being served that you neglect being the servant; the server. This relates to warrior culture and history immensely.

Many of you will be shocked to learn that true definition of the word "Samurai" does not mean "Warrior." It literally translates as "One who serves." Ponder the significance of this for a moment. Ok, maybe a few moments, then continue reading.

For a warrior, there is only one way to live: as a servant; as one who is not concerned with being served. This attitude is starkly contrasted with the attitude we see prominently on display by many people today. The whole world revolves around them and their concerns. They are hell-bent on being worshiped (celebrity idolatry) and on BEING SERVED. Is this you? 

A very famous man once said, "If any man would gain his life, let him first lose it." He also once said something that I have paraphrased thusly: "If any man shall receive, let him first give." Do you see what the focus is here? It is on serving. The servant is the one who gives something away. The servant is the one who lays down his life for others. That is the life of a warrior. That is the life of the True Warrior. 

Purge yourself of the desire to be served. How? By serving others. Personally, I serve God first, family and friends second. I cannot tell you how to live. You must make your choice.

However, if you are tired of feeling empty, unfulfilled, alone, unappreciated and unloved than I have the remedy: Fill someone else first. Be there for someone else first. Appreciate someone else first. Love someone else first. And live like the True Warrior and let go of the need to be served. Lose your life in service and by doing so, gain the greatest life you could ever gain.

~Alex