In last week's blog, I listed some of the true inner workings of the cult that I escaped from. After doing more research into this area, I am shocked to find even more tactics and tricks the cult leader used that I was unaware of. More could be written on the inner workings of this cult and its leader but that is not the subject of today's blog. Today, I want to share the brutal truth of how and why I finally left the cult after 12 years.
It all started about 3 years ago. After having been faithfully training and being a member of the cult for about 9 years, my intuition and gut started to send me signals that something was off. At first I couldn't really articulate anything specific, I just knew something didn't feel right. I brushed aside my gut feelings and moved on. I was feeling good again for a while until the gut feelings resurfaced again, this time more powerfully and with more specificity. I got the subtle feeling of suspicion that the leader was hiding something from me and all the members. I couldn't quite put my finger on it, but my gut knew that the leader was concealing something. However, due to the power of the brainwashing I had submitted to and my own selfish desire for the "hidden, secret knowledge" that the cult leader continued to promise, I rationalized away my feelings again and pressed forward. At this time, I freely admit that I had sufficient information to warrant investigating the cult but I didn't want to. My gut was telling me something was off but I chose to ignore it or sweep it away because I wanted what I wanted. Selfishness blinded me and pride caused to me to dig in and ignore my conscience. Bad decision - a mistake I will be far less likely to ignore in the future. Finally, after about a 6 month period since my last gut feeling, they resurfaced again. I was very emotionally distressed at this point because I knew if I swept these feelings under the rug again without investigating them, I would regret it. I remember crying one night as I was praying and thinking about all this because I knew what needed to be done but I didn't want to do it. I knew in my heart by this point that the cult leader was lying to me and the members, I just didn’t know the specifics. How did I know? I just knew in my heart. I’m sure you can relate. I then hit upon the discovery that gave me the final push to investigate the truth for myself and finally fill in the missing pieces of the puzzle. We had recently finished a major training program with the cult leader. It was supposed to be very special, elite, and was supposed to finally give us access to very specialized knowledge and resources. This training program cost me $5,000.00 and 2.5 years of time. I sacrificed an immense amount of personal time, time with God, time working on my own business, family time, etc. to be able to complete this program - all with the promise of secret knowledge that would help me teach people how to stay safe from violence. Well, that knowledge was never revealed nor given to me or any of the other 19 people who finished the program with me. This caused major red flags - why were we not given what was promised? To compound that, 2 female members who had just completed this program with me (with the same time and financial commitment) had suddenly vanished from the organization. They were just gone. No announcement, no well-wishes to send them off on their new life path, nothing. They simply vanished. I wanted to know the answer to one question, why? Why would these two highly intelligent and dedicated women spend all that time and money and then sever all ties with the cult? It didn't make any sense to me. While I was racking my brain to figure out why I began to remember many other people who had done exactly what these two women had done - finished one of the "elite" programs of knowledge and then suddenly disappeared altogether never to be mentioned again. At this point, I knew something was very wrong so I did what cult members are not supposed to do - reach out and talk to non-members and get their side of the story. I had a moderately good idea of what kind of information I would find but I never imagined it was as bad as it was. I talked to all kinds of people from the past who had been in the cult and gotten out and I found they were relieved to hear I had taken the red pill. I received more graciousness and help from the "bad outsiders" than I ever received in 12 years from the cult leader. I continued having discussions and digging into the stories from people of the past who had gotten out and I found that their stories all matched. I think it is best to contrast this with an example: An ex-girlfriend of mine is now a member of the cult. I introduced her to the cult when we were dating. We haven't spoken in over a year and half. She recently (within the last 6 months) dropped out of a program that the cult leader was conducting and in the time since then I have been told or seen in writing 4 different stories as to why she left the program. To this day, I am ignorant of the whole truth in this matter and so are (I would imagine) nearly all the other members of the cult. I use that example to illustrate the following point: There are 4 different stories going around (perhaps more for all I know) as to why this member quit a certain program. Different members within the cult believe 1 of the 4 versions. Nobody is on the same page and it is likely that few members know the true reason. Why all the deception? Why all the secrecy? Are all the members even aware that there are multiple stories going around? If this one, simple story has 4 different versions, how many different versions of a story exist when real consequences are on the line? How many stories will the cult leader tell when he really needs to protect his image? Who knows… All the people from the past I spoke with had their stories matching - some of which didn't know that I would be contacting them nor did I tell them what questions I would be asking ahead of time. I spoke with people the cult leader hurt quite badly and continue to speak with members within the organization. Many have expressed their concerns and doubts to me about the cult leader, his legitimacy, and what red flags they have personally experienced which has caused them to doubt and question things. I am very proud of these people - it takes tremendous courage to follow your intuition and seek the truth - especially when you've been "programmed" not to do so. To them I say "keep searching". Ironically, listen to what the cult leader has said and "question everything", "keep diving deeper" and "Defend the paths of truth"! Now we come to the big question, why did I leave? Simply stated, I left because it was the right thing to do. Imagine that you are an employee at a company and you have an owner who runs the company. Imagine you become aware that this business owner is committing fraud and ripping off you, your fellow employees and customers. Imagine you became aware that this business owner has made sexual advances against female employees (your co-workers) some of whom were even married. Imagine you become aware that this business owner is in full knowledge of what he is doing but continues to do so without remorse. Imagine that you were taken through a Management Training Program and promised that this would make you a legitimate manager with full access to all the resources required to be a good manager - you pay thousands of dollars for this training, spend 2.5 years going through it, and at the end, you are not given what was promised. In light of all this, I ask you, would you remain an employee of that company? Would you continue to tolerate such lies and perversion from the owner? On top of that, what is your higher moral duty here? If you left this company for the reasons stated but you saw someone else joining the company and you said nothing to them about why you left, could you sleep well at night? "I saved myself but that person, that neophyte who doesn't know any better, eh, they're not my problem." I do not feel called to such a shallow moral character. I was taught to "love thy neighbor" and that warriors look out for fellow warriors on the battleground. If you were a Marine and you knew where the land mines in a battleground were but you failed to warn your fellow Marines, could you live with yourself if one of those Marines stepped on a mine and died? If your sin of omission was responsible for the death or maiming of a brother or sister soldier, could you bear the weight of that guilt and shame? I cannot - hence these blogs and hence my private conversations with many members still in the cult and those who have since left the cult. Let me be clear, I am not saying I will force my will upon anyone - I have no desire to do this. All I can do is share the truth and at least give current members and potential new ones the ability to make an informed choice. If all that I said to you about being taken advantage of, having female employees sexually exploited, wanting to deal with a narcissist who knows what he is doing but couldn't care less - if all that sounds appealing to you then by all means, exercise your freedom of association and go for it. If however, you have even a shred of moral courage and virtue and all that doesn't sound appealing, then by all means, use your freedom of association and leave this cult. As an interesting aside, I have spoken with many people about leaving the cult, current members (some who have been in longer than me) and those who left a long time ago. Out of all the people I have spoken with, not a single person has attempted to defend the character of the leader. I have gotten some flak from long-time members but not a single one has said, "Alex, all those things you are saying about the leader's character, I know them to be false and incorrect." Even the members who have been in for over 20 years who know the leader best (better than I) have not said such things - because they can't. They know the leader is corrupt & that he treats people like shit but they stay for whatever reason seems right to them - they enjoy the information and specialized knowledge they receive (not realizing the leader is just a copy-cat and they could easily get the information on their own) or because they have spent too many years promoting and elevating this leader so that if they reneged now, they couldn't bear the social consequences. Or any number of other reasons that I cannot fathom. The real truth if you are one of these members is that you are losing your social standing and credibility by staying in. The longer you stay, the more you support a known fraud, liar and narcissist. You are not saving face by staying, you are losing. I was involved for 12 years and the "expats" who escaped have given me more love and graciousness than the cult leader ever did. They understand, and I understand. We all went through the same thing. To those who have admitted to having bad feelings about the cult but want to stay to "finish a program" or to "get the good information" I have one question for you, is this information more valuable to you than your integrity? Go back to my employee example: Would you respect an employee who says "Yeah, I know the boss is a fraud, lies constantly, rips people off, tries to have sex with married women in the company, heck, I even know the boss will lie to me if it is expedient for him, but I just want to stay to finish this program and to keep getting the content because the content the leader teaches is so good." Really? That's your justification to sell your soul? Your reputation, your credibility, your image, the trust you've worked so hard to build with your family, spouse, children, co-workers, siblings, etc. is worth throwing away for some "good content"? In my opinion, this is a pitiful excuse because the cult leader doesn't have a monopoly on this content. If you bothered to search Google or YouTube you could find the content. There is nothing new under the sun, no man has a monopoly on truth, so why you would choose to associate with such a prolific liar in light of this information is beyond my comprehension. If this is you, I love you and care for you and want to see you do well, but I do not respect your decision to stay in the cult. We have preached "Defend the paths of truth" and "Strive for the perfection of character" for over a decade - it is time to actually live up to these axioms and do the work. This is why I left. This is why I cannot support anyone who stays in the cult. Knowledge is power and knowledge brings with it responsibility. I avoided seeking the truth for nearly 3 years on this issue because I knew once I investigated, my behavior would need to change accordingly. It has been hard but it has also been easy. I've received overwhelmingly more support than criticism or backlash. Even people who have no idea what cult I am referring to are emailing me saying, "Hey I faced a similar situation in the past and it sucks. I'm with you." I've gotten emails, texts, & phone calls all saying that they can relate and appreciate what I am doing. I've even been thanked by many members within the cult itself telling me that these blogs have been very helpful and that they are glad I have written them. What should you take away from this if you cannot relate to leaving a cult? A few things: 1. Truth should be its own reward. 2. No amount of information or knowledge is worth more than your character, integrity and virtue. 3. If your conscience is telling you something is wrong persistently, something is wrong. Have the courage to listen to your conscience and investigate. Your conscience lives to protect you. If you are a member of this cult or an "expat" who wants to share your experience with me, I would love to hear from you. Email me at info@AlexLanshe.com. I have nothing to hide and have told anyone who takes the time to call me all that I know. Be vigilant my fellow warrior and remember, truth is its own reward!
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Doug Marques
7/25/2017 03:30:00 pm
Great writing and description! Like all cult leaders, when the gig is up and the money flow is shut off, they'll move on to a new group of unsuspecting victims. Hopefully they'll read your blog before they get taken for a ride.
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John Paxton
7/25/2017 03:32:06 pm
Hey Alex,
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Mike Davis
7/25/2017 04:33:35 pm
Again Alex... great follow up to your second article!
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Andrea Young
7/25/2017 04:53:49 pm
Alex - I'm sorry you went through this experience. It's very similar to being in a toxic, controlling relationship with a narcissist. You are right though - negative attention is given to the people who leave and they are quickly discredited for fear that their experience will unveil their lies. Creating an image of who they want to be is more important than actually doing the right thing and living a life of truth. Keep on being a light in such a dark world Alex!
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4/15/2019 06:52:45 am
It was a good thing that you have it shared to us here. I cannot imagine how cruel it was. I am thankful that you still got the chance to escape that kind of life to think that there were so many cheats in your life, and one wrong move can make a lot of difference. Thank you for sharing this story to us. Because of you, I felt like I became stronger than ever. I am pretty sure that it's going to be a little different for you now. But please keep in your mind that of you were able to surpass it, the next one will be easier!
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